It started around age 3.
“Daddy, there’s something under my bed.”
And suddenly, bedtime got a lot more complicated.
Why It Happens
Kids this age have incredible imaginations—but can’t fully separate real from imaginary yet.
Their brains are developing rapidly, which means new fears pop up out of nowhere.
It’s completely normal. And also completely exhausting.
What We’ve Tried
Monster Spray (The Classic)
A spray bottle with water and a few drops of lavender. “Monster repellent.”
We spray the closet and under the bed together. Gives him a sense of control.
Does it work? Sometimes. The routine matters more than the spray.
The Flashlight Check
Before bed, we do a full room inspection together. Flashlight under the bed, in the closet, behind the door.
“See? All clear.”
Letting him confirm it himself builds confidence.
A Nightlight That Works
Total darkness made it worse. A soft nightlight was a game-changer.
👉 Toddler nightlights on Amazon
A “Protector” Stuffed Animal
He picked a stuffed animal that “keeps him safe” at night. His choice, his comfort object.
Talking About It (During the Day)
We read books about being brave and talk about fears when he’s calm—not in the moment.
👉 Kids’ books about being brave
What Doesn’t Help
- Dismissing the fear — “There’s nothing there” doesn’t help when it feels real to them.
- Getting frustrated — They can’t control it. Our job is to help them through it.
- Elaborate explanations — Keep it simple. “You’re safe. I’m right here.”
The Long Game
This phase passes. Their brains mature, they understand reality better, and the fears fade.
Our job in the meantime:
- Validate their feelings
- Give them tools
- Be patient
- Be present
Final Thought
When Kayden says “I’m scared,” what he really means is “I need you.”
Showing up—even at 2am—is what matters most.
The monsters aren’t real. But the comfort you provide is.
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